How to end a toxic relationship safely
Do you want to escape from a toxic relationship? Do you want to know how to end a toxic relationship safely ?
Do you feel trapped with no hope of any resolution or change in your current situation? Don’t worry, there’s hope and a way out, you can end a toxic relationship safely.
Typical Toxic relationship breakups
The breakup of a toxic relationship or worse still the end of a relationship with a narcissist is different from that of a normal relationship breakup. People break up all the time and yes you miss your old partner or friend and grieve for the breakdown of the relationship and feel some sort of sadness.
But the end of a toxic relationship is different because it is complicated by high levels of conflict, further abuse, and manipulation. This can leave you heartbroken, being manipulated, being abused from a distance, and thinking that you are living someone else’s life.
The end of a toxic relationship does not signify the end of the toxicity. The abuse tends to continue after the breakup. It is therefore important to have a plan of action that will ensure that you are able to end the toxic relationship safely and well-prepared.
Check out my Ultimate Guide to Escaping from a Toxic Relationship and you will be able to end a toxic relationship safely and move on with your life.
The ultimate guide to ending a toxic relationship safely:
1. Start by asking yourself some questions.
- The first step to ending a toxic relationship is to ask yourself several important questions.
- Are you ready to move on and end things with this toxic person?
- Do you have emotional and financial support from family or friends to help you through this difficult and toxic process?
- Have you tried to end things in the past and changed your mind and gone back to the toxic relationship? How can you prevent this from happening again?
- Are you prepared for the fact that the toxic relationship may end but the toxic person may still try to abuse you from a distance either socially, or financially and by making life difficult for you?
2. Decide on your next steps.
- Toxic relationships can vary a lot. You may be in a controlling or abusive situation. You may also simply feel trapped and unhappy in a negative relationship that sucks the life out of you. Depending on the type of relationship you’re in, the next steps can vary.
- You may need to alert family and friends about your plans.
- You may need to put together a survival bag, separate your finances, or take other measures that will ensure your safety.
- If you have children, plan for their safety. Seek legal counsel to find out your rights and responsibilities for the state that you live in.
- Make a list of everything you need to do and follow it.
3. Plan your break-up.
- You may want to ask a friend or family member to stay with you, or you may be able to do this on your own depending on how toxic your relationship is.
- Figure out the best way to have a conversation with your partner about ending things. You may want to use a public location if safety is a concern. Should you really feel unsafe just leaving without any discussions may be an option to avoid the drama and ensure your safety.
- Practice what you’ll say to your partner. You can write this down and say it in front of a mirror. You can also put the text on your phone to make it easier to remember as you may be feeling nervous.
- Remember to stay calm and confident throughout the planning stage.
4. Confront your partner.
- Once you’re done with the planning, give yourself a specific day to confront your partner. This should be done very calmly.
- Put this date in your planner or schedule and stick to it. You may be tempted to ignore the set date, but it’s important to stay confident and go through with it.
- Stay calm when you talk to your partner. Don’t let your partner convince you to give it another chance as you will be pulled back into a toxic situation that never changes. This may also be dangerous.
5. Let your toxic partner go.
- Avoid dragging out the break-up.
- Learn to let your partner go with ease and confidence.
- Don’t check in on them on social media, respond to their texts, or read their emails.
- Instead, make it a clean break so you can move on with your life.
- Toxic people are manipulative and so a clean break, going with no contact is much easier for you in the long run.
6. Figure out how you’ll handle the backlash.
- Unfortunately, people in toxic relationships may have a hard time letting you go quietly.
- How will you handle it if your ex calls your job and complains to your boss?
- What will you do if your ex annoys your family and friends?
- Are you prepared to handle gossip and rumors after the breakup?
- It’s important to keep a level head and not seek revenge as a response because it can only make things worse. Instead, figure out how to protect yourself emotionally and legally.
- Block your toxic partner from social media so that you don’t see any of the toxic posts that they may post about you. Just let it go, any gossip says more about them than it does about you.
- Surround yourself with supportive and loving people who are on your side so that you can more easily end a toxic relationship safely.
End a toxic relationship safely with a Narcissist
When you leave the narcissist they will completely forget about the good times that you shared, the children that you may have together, and the years that you may have been together.
There will be nothing sacred and so the divorce process will be a time of war.
They will do everything in their power to inflict pain and to cause you more suffering.
The narcissist will not abide by any rules and social norms that are expected in a divorce or breakup.
You have been exposed to narcissistic abuse and so your self-esteem is low, your stress levels are abnormally high and you have probably relinquished your power and control to your narcissistic partner.
Coming from this vulnerable position the breakup will be very traumatic as you will not only be grieving the relationship, but you will also be needing to find yourself, and your own voice, and forge a new path for yourself.
The narcissist will try to keep you hooked and they will try to make contact with you even if it is to only insult you. During these times remember to ignore them as they are only trying to maintain control over you.
Remember that they are incapable of change as they refuse to take responsibility for their actions. So don’t believe a word that they say.
The closure will be difficult because there will be no apology, they will not take responsibility for their actions and they will probably move on to someone new very quickly.
Have the courage to keep walking because day by day your situation will improve. You will heal and a time of relief will come.
Avoid being sucked back in and going back to your ex by constantly reminding yourself why you left in the first place.
The aim is to end a toxic relationship safely, so focus on finding peace and safety.
You can move on after a toxic relationship.